D/s has been magic in my life. There have been times i’ve felt like this:
Although the picture isn’t quite right, it needs more openness, but still, there are times i’ve felt like that. Kneeling at His feet, wanting to feel His hand on my head. Wanting to kiss and caress Him.
There have been times i’ve felt like this:
or like this:
Deeply in touch with some power that is contained between me and Sir. The spiritual element of BDSM maybe.
i am not feeling any of that these days. {i know, you already knew that, why do i keep talking about it?}
Instead, I’m living in black-and-white.
Ok, we don’t actually have 4 kids, thank goodness. But still. This is what my life feels like today.
But it also feels like this:
Or like this:
So i try to remember:
And i try to count my blessings.
i woke up all early this morning and couldn’t go back to sleep. “Early” for me, in this case, was like 3 a.m. i lay there thinking, trying to go back to sleep for about 45 minutes before i gave up and got up.
i thought about how i can’t expect Him to change. He loves me and He’s doing the best He can right now, i know that. i don’t have any control over that – over Him – anyhow.
So what do i need? Given that i can’t change Him, what do i need to do to be ok? What am i really missing and how do i replace it?
i miss the magic, the color, the sparkle. The feeling that goes with submission…
So maybe i need to find that for myself. Maybe i don’t have to get that D/s connection with Him to find it, maybe i can uncover it inside myself.
i’m not sure how i’m going to do that. But i saw this article this morning about yoga. It ends with this:
My soul is opening. The truth was always within me, buried beneath control and fear. Lying in Savasana, I finally asked for help. I asked the Universe to help me be open and honest, and to let the love flow the way it is meant to. I surrender.
My greatest hope now is that I can stay in this place, and deeply honor it when I see it in you.
I will see you. Will you see me?
Maybe that is a key. Or maybe i need to find some Wiccan practices, or meditate more, or something that will put me in deeper touch with myself. i don’t know what the answer is, but perhaps it is inside me.
And maybe i can find it.