So here we go, starting to answer Lady Elsa’s 8 questions. I’m going to give two answers to each question. One will be the IRL {in real life} answer, the other will be IMD {in my dreams}
The first question is:
Level 1: How You Live.Who steers the overall course of your lives? Who decides where each of you will live, how each of you will be educated, and what each of you will do for a living? Who has decision-making authority over money, major purchases (house, car, boat), and vacations?
1. {IRL} Sir and i have only been together a few years, and neither of us is exactly young ~ well, you know, we’re young at heart, but not in years. i already owned a house when we met, and He was renting, so it made sense that when we started living together, He moved into my house. We both have careers that are satisfying and we’re both financially stable. So there wasn’t any need for a lot of management, and honestly, if He had started telling me to make changes ~ to sell my house or change careers or even give Him access to my finances, i would have thought that was a huge red flag, and would probably have ended the relationship.
In terms of vacation, a lot of that is determined by the fact that my daughter lives very far away, and in a place that, as it turns out, Sir enjoys visiting. If he hadn’t enjoyed it, i’m not sure what we would have done, although i think i probably would have gone by myself. Sir also has adult children, and i think we agree that each of needs to make decisions about the relationships with our kids ourselves.
i had to buy a new car last year, and He helped guide that decision making process, but it was still my decision {and my car payment.} Obviously, if we decided to buy a new house, i think we would come to an agreement together. i can’t imagine Him insisting that we buy a house unless we both liked it. i have no idea what i’d do if we ended up in that situation and He wanted to insist on picking a house i hated ~ because He just wouldn’t do that. So overall, we are pretty autonomous on this level.
2. {IMD} In my dreams, it’s about the same. i don’t feel like i need guidance in these areas, and i don’t think He’s interested in changing the way i do these kinds of things. On the other hand, if He wanted to buy a new house, or a boat, i’d probably be easy to convince to do it, or at least really explore the idea. i don’t know if that’s because i’m pretty easy to get along with, or because i’m just that submissive. How do you know the difference?
IN OTHER NEWS ~~~ IT’S TIME!!!! TIME FOR
THE GREAT ONLINE COOKIE EXCHANGE!!!
This announcement is from Jz at A Reluctant Bitch. She says:
Tuesday, Dec. 10, 2014 will be the Five Year Anniversary of the Great Online Cookie Exchange Extravaganza … (the crowd cheers)… and we’d love for you to join us in the fun!
The rules are simple. Just post a recipe for a holiday goodie on Tuesday, Dec. 10, 2014.
(The name isn’t strictly accurate. We welcome all types of goodies.)
Anyone is welcome to join in … but
There’s One Condition:
If you want your blog to show up in the official list of participant links, you MUST contact me (Jz) by Monday, Dec. 9, with both your name and the URL of your blog.
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