Monthly Archives: December 2013

Old and New Favorites

i understand that i can expect a caning in a little while here, as soon as Sir wakes up and has some coffee.  “An English caning,” He says.  So of course i have to google that.

Here’s one description from this website:

English caning is called that because it’s the style developed in the English “Public” school as a punishment. The stroke is a full arm strike, rather than the usually wrist and forearm strike in “American” caning. English canes are made of rattan, but have that curved handle, like a shepherder’s wand. They are usually a bit longer than American style straight canes. It also is marked by being almost a formal and ritualized punishment. The strokes are commonly given in sets of six. “Six of the best” is the refrain of those mean schoolmasters. For a real “English Caning Scene” the punishee would only drop their pants and bend over a desk. It’s done in a very ritualized manner. The target area is the part of the bottom that contacts a chair in a sitting posture, and only the top four or five inches of thigh. (Part of the punishment was the student having to sit on the cane welts in class without squirming.) The strokes are delivered at measured intervals. Since it takes about 45 seconds to fully process the stroke, the strokes are usually delivered at about 30 second intervals for maximum pain. (You’re still processing stroke 1, when stroke two hits.) The strokes are straight across both buttocks, and it’s a matter of pride to get them quite straight. Some practitioners like the “five barred gate” effect which is five parallel strokes with the sixth stroke crossing the first five at an angle. (Often there will be slight bleeding where the welts cross as the second impact on the orignal welt breaks open the skin.

That sounds pretty scary – to me, anyhow, but i’m pretty sure that Sir won’t actually leave any welts, much less make me bleed.  That is totally not His style.  i’m sure it’s gonna hurt though.

While i wait for that, i have cookies to bake still {i know, it’s late, but not too late} and laundry to do.  i thought i’d share a couple of favorite Xmas songs with you, you know, while i wait.

This one is new to me ~ Stuck in the Smoke Hole of our Tipi ~ but i fell in love with it immediately:

And this is an old favorite ~ Dar Williams doing The Christians and the Pagans:

Whatever you’re doing, whether you’re celebrating this holiday or not, i hope you’re having a wonderful day!

Tis the Season…

i love Christmas.

Sir used to not like Christmas, but we’ve had a couple of good years now, and He is no longer going “bah humbug” regularly.   I deeply appreciate His willingness to put aside many years of negative experience and be open to the pleasures of the season.

So we’re actually doing two celebrations this year – Xmas Eve with His kids and grandkids, Xmas Day with my family.  I’m excited about all of it ~~

~~ and i haven’t had a chance to write here at all.  i’m planning to do better in the New Year, but until then, i leave you with this ~~


It started as a bet.  My friend Jenna had been teasing me, just a little, about breaking off a relationship with another guy.  “I don’t think you like them nice,” she said.  “I think you want some big caveman to sweep you off your feet”

I laughed.  “Not exactly,  But I am tired of men who don’t know what they want.  I wish I’d meet someone who would invite me to do something in particular.  Not this “would you like to do something — what would you like to do??” stuff.   Or they’ll say, ‘I was thinking, maybe, if you might be interested, we could possibly…’   Please.  Just spit it out.”

Jenna laughed and shook her head.  “But you’ve got strong ideas about everything.  It’s not like you can’t come up with great suggestions.  I think it’s sweet that they want to look to you for input.”

I sighed, “Not input, Jenna.  They want me to do all the work.  Come up with all the plans.  Make frigging arrangements.  I’d just like to meet someone who has his own ideas and plans and isn’t afraid to share them.”

“Well,” Jenna was always hopeful, “It could happen eventually.”

“Seems unlikely.”  I shrugged.  “That’s ok.  It’s not like I’m miserable with my life now.  It would just be nice to have  – to have someone to spend time with.”

And that was the end of that.


But a week later, Jenna came back ~ with a brochure.

“Olivia,” she said, and there was a strange tone in her voice.  “Look at this.”

I took the brochure.  “Meet your fantasy…” I read.  And I laughed.  “What on earth?”

“Keep reading,” Jenna said.

I read, opened the trifold and read some more.  “Well, it’s certainly interesting…” I looked up, wondering if my face looked as red as it felt.

“I know, right?  I like that part about how you can describe what you’re looking for and what your ~ how do they put it? define what your limits are.  You get to pick what happens and it’s completely confidential.  I think it would be perfect for you.”

“Perfect for me?  It seems kind of silly.  I don’t know.  I mean, how is living out a fantasy going to help in the long run?  It seems like it would just be more depressing when it was over.”

Jenna shook her head, “No, look at this part.  See right here, it says they offer a “life coaching aspect of the experience.”  They have a professional talk to you about whether you really liked it – liked your fantasy experience – and how to make it come true if you want to.”

I just shook my head.  Jenna had no idea.  How likely was it that they could help me find a loving, gentle, sensitive man who wanted to spank my ass and tell me what to do?  No way.

She was still talking, “In fact, I’ll bet you – I bet you’d have a great time if you went.  Bet you five bucks.”

“Oh, no,” I laughed.  This was an old game of ours, going back to high school, but we hadn’t used it in years.  Worse than a dare, only a real chicken turned down the ‘bet you five bucks’ challenge.  “Really, Jenna?  You’re doing the five bucks bet?  To get me to go?  Why do you care if I go or not?”

Jenna looked away, suddenly embarrassed.  “Um, well.  It would be good for you.  You wouldn’t be complaining about the too-nice wishy-washy men you know.  And besides,” she grinned, “I figure if you go, you can tell me if it’s any fun or not.  You don’t mind doing new things.”

“Bet me five bucks, huh?”  I pondered, turning the brochure over and over in my hand.  What did I have to lose?

“You’re on!”  I said.  “I’ll call them tonight.”

That was how it began…


“Don’t,” he says.


He takes one step toward me and I catch my breath, his hand in my hair takes my breath away completely.  He smiles, sweetly.  “That would be, ‘no, Sir?’ for you, my little slut, and make sure there’s a question at the end, right?  Wouldn’t want me to think you’re telling me ‘no.'”

“O,” i gasp, flustered, “No ~ Sir ~ um, yes, no, Sir, i’m not telling you no!

He tilts my head back, a steady pull on my hair right at the nape of my neck controlling the angle of the tilt.  With my face up towards him, i think for a moment that he will kiss me, he is that close.  I am acutely aware of his body, not quite touching me, but so close.

He smiles again, shakes his head.  “You have a lot to learn,” he says.

I think his eyes can see through me, and i flush, embarrassed and ashamed.  i am so new to this.

i have never done this before.  Not like this.

He releases me then.  “Now,” he says, “you may continue making your bed while I watch.  You are not to cover yourself, or try to hide your body in any way.  Is that clear?”

“Yes!  Yes, Sir,” i say.  i am acutely aware of the heat between my thighs.  i want to giggle and i feel like i should curtsey or something and i’m horrified to realize id really like to be on my knees with his cock in my mouth.

i can’t believe i feel this way…

Only in Australia…

Just a quick giggle…

Oh, unless you wanted to leave Jz some congratulatory words on her making it on the Top 100 Sex Bloggers list.  She’s turned off comments on her post about it, so feel free to say wonderful things about her here, and we’ll pass them on  🙂

Congratulations to the Top 100 Sex Bloggers

Here they are, the winners on Rori’s list.  I’m delighted to see some of my favorites on here, and I bet some of your favorites are here too.  I can’t wait to read the ones I don’t know yet too.


Lady Pandorah from Lady Pandorah’s Sanctuary @ladypandorah
2. Jerome from Let’s Talk About Sex @NotJeromeStuart
3. EA from Easily Aroused @EasilyAroused
4. Anna Sansom from The Lady Garden Project @ladygarden69
5. Violet Blue from Tiny Nibbles @violetblue
6. Dick and Jane from Dick-n-Jane
7. Kara from Kara Sutra Reviews @Kara_Sutra
8. Lauralyn from Big Ugly Pix
9. Remittance Girl from Remittance Girl @remittancegirl
10. Dorothy Black from The Dot Spot @dorothyblack
11. Monocle, Redbud, and Ximena from The Erotic Writer @_Monocle_ and@_Ximena_Writes_
12. Penny from Penny for Your (Dirty) Thoughts @pennysblog
13. Lauren from Queerie Bradshaw @QueerieBradshaw
14. MsQuote from A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind @GoodDirtyWoman
15. littlesubmissions from Little Submissions
16. Blacksilk from Being Blacksilk @BlacksilkBlog
17. Conina from Exploring Surrender
18. SGC from Submissive Guy Comics @SGCposts
19. Shelby Cross from Shelby Cross, Writer @Shelby_Cross
20. N. Likes from My Dissolute Life @nlikes
21. Jayne from Diary Incarnate
22. John from John D. Stories @johndstories
23. Z from Pervertically Virtuous @VirtuousPervert
24. LS&M from Love, Sex & Marriage
25. Bre from Owned, Collared, Loved @Pandasproperty
26. Hyacinth Jones from A Dissolute Life Means… @adissolutelife
27. Santha Smith from Secretly Sensuous @SSensuous
28. Ruby Ryer from Pegging Paradise @Ruby_Ryder
29. Charlie Glickman from Charlie Glickman @charlieglickman
30. Cliff from The Pervocracy @pervocracy
31. Marie Rebelle from Rebel’s Notes @rebelsnotes
32. Renee Rose from Renee Rose Romance @ReneeRoseAuthor
33. Lady Cheeky from Smut for Smarties @LadyCheeky
34. The Sin Doll from The Sin Doll @TheSinDoll
35. Cheeky Minx from Love Hate Sex Cake @LoveHateSexCake
36. Seamus from The Wistful Sinner
37. Athol Kay from Married Man Sex Life
38. Dangerous Lilly from This Could Be Dangerous @dangerouslilly
39. Lucas Brooks from Top To Bottom @Top2Bottom
40. Epiphora from Hey Epiphora @epiphora
41. Peroxide from Submissive in Seattle @Peroxide__
42. Axe from Unspeakable Axe @unspeakableaxe
43. Ferns from Domme Chronicles @Ferns__
44. Girl on the Net from Girl on the Net @girlonthenet
45. Joan Price from Better Than I Ever Expected @joanprice
46. Cammies from Cammies on the Floor @cammiesonfloor
47. Venice and Ryan from Fuck Blogging @fuckblogging
48. Kaya from Under His Hand
49. Desi Dassi from Desi Dassi
50. Jz from A Reluctant Bitch
51. Cara from Cara Sutra @thecarasutra
52. Caitlin M. from Sexational! @sex_ational
53. Maggie Mayhem from Miss Maggie Mahem @msmaggiemayhem
54. Marian from Creative Noodling
55. BD Swain from Leaning How To Tell You @redswain
56. Thumper from Denying Thumber @thumperMN
57. Panty Parade from Off Go The Panties
58. Jade Melisande from Kink and Poly @piecesofjade
59. Will from Lusty Limerickets
60. Mollena from The Perverted Negress @Mollena
61. Pyx from Syncopation
62. Sadie Quinn from Sadie Quinn @ladybugsadey
63. Chris McC from Stranded in Toronto @stranded_in_to
64. Kayla Lords from A Sexual Being @KaylaLords
65. vulgarvag from Vuldar Vag @vulgarvag
66. Maggie from The Honest Courtesan @Maggie_McNeill
67. Shon Richards from Erotiterrorist @shonrichards
68. nilla from Vanillamom’s Blog @swirlednilla
69. Wordwytch from Adventures of a Word Wytch
70. Anastassia from Diary of an Owned Slave @NatiraDarius
71. Dumb Domme from Dumb Domme @DumbDomme
72. Jill McDevitt from A Day in the Life of a Sexologist @sexologistjill
73. Fatal from You Linger Like a Haunting Refrain
74. lifeofalovergirl from Life of a Lover Girl @lovergirlslife
75. Michael from Malflic @malflic
76. Mrs. Fever from Temperature’s Rising
77. Tori from Pain’s Pleasure
78. rougedmount from rougedmount
79. Heather and Nikki from Vagina Antics @Heather_Cole1 and@Nikki_Blue1
80. Perverse Cowgirl from Hiding in Plain Sight
81. Property of Potter from Property of Potter @pottersproperty
82. Anakin and padme from Journey to the Darkside @AnakinDarth and@padmeamidala
83. John Brownstone from Southern Sir’s Place
84. Joe Johnstun from Sexy Little Ideas @joejohnstun
85. Hedone from The Pleasure Principle @pleasure_spot
86. Sangsara from Sexuality Sanctuary @sangsaraB
87. Shadow from Shadowed Seductress @ShadowedS
88. Gemma from Erotic Adventures @swinginggemma
89. TJ from TJ’s Take @tjthemadhatter
90. Scarlett Dubois from A True Unfolding @ATrueUnfolding
91. Adriana Ravenlust from of Sex and Love
92. Ali from Ali’s Addiction @AlisAddiction
93. Jill from Naked All the Time @nakedjill
94. Emma from Dirty Little Whispers
95. paltego from Femdom Resource
96. Catherine Toyooka from Sex Spoken Here @Catcoaches
97. bilikesscifi from A Tale of Bi and Bi @bi_and_bi
98. Sarah from Marvelous Darling @marvydarling
99. mysticlez from Mystic’s Mind Fuck @mysticlez218

100. YOU! As always, I want to leave a place on this list for ALL the awesome sex bloggers out there! So please leave a comment on Between My Sheets with your name/URL to tell us about your sexy blog!

The Great Cookie Exchange

It’s that time of the year – the Great Cookie Exchange!   Thanks to Jz for organizing this every year!

Those of you who know me outside of the cyberworld know that I’m not a big baker.  Or cook.  Or much of anything else domestic, and this recipe is perfect for those of us who want simple and easy.

The Red Velvet Ball

2 bricks of cream cheese
2 sticks of butter
1/2 teaspoon vanilla
1 box red velvet cake mix
1/2 cup brown or raw sugar
1 bag semi-sweet chocolate chips (miniature would be better)

Soften cream cheese and butter to room temperature.  Mix together with vanilla, red velvet cake mix, and brown or raw sugar.  Add 1 bag of chocolate chips.  Form into a ball.   Refrigerate for a couple of hours or overnight.  (i put mine in a small bowl to make sure it stayed round, but i’m sure that’s not necessary.)

Roll in chocolate chips (hold some out from the bag) or chopped pecans.  (i found it easier to do this after the ball was chilled, but that might be because I don’t do this kind of thing all the time.)  Serve with graham crackers or vanilla wafers.

Here it is:


(That’s actually a half batch – i didn’t make a whole batch because i don’t have anything to do with it except eat it.)

And here’s what it looks like as you spread it on the graham crackers and eat it.  i didn’t use miniature chocolate chips – my friend who i got the recipe from didn’t mention that – but it would spread better with those mini ones.  Sir, however, was not daunted by the over-size chocolate chips.


He went from being a skeptic ~ “Cream cheese??  And chocolate?” to a fan.  You can tell by this:

IMG_3085Ok, i might have helped.  But still…

I think it’s a great addition to a Christmas party or such, and i hope you enjoy it too!  Now go check out all these other great recipes!





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