Master Michael S and slave angie have been doing a series on their relationship over on their blog ~ if you haven’t been there already, i strongly recommend it.  They’re responding to some questions posed by Lady Elsa, which are available on Fetlife.  Here’s the first part of their answers.

i’ve been toying with answering the questions myself, but am afraid it will just remind me of how little D/s there is in our lives.  But here’s what Lady Elsa said about the questions:

So, here’s my first draft in describing the levels. I invite you to try them out as relationship communication work or as a journaling exercise, thinking about your current relationship, or if you are currently single, about your ideal relationship. Note that “It depends,” or “We both do,” or “This isn’t really applicable to us” are all acceptable answers at any level. Note also that the order of the levels is not terribly significant; I generally tried to move from most life-altering to least, but each level could be argued for a different position.

Maybe it would be helpful for me to do them.   Maybe i’ll discover that i don’t want as much D/s as i think i do!

The first question is:

Level 1: How You Live. Who steers the overall course of your lives? Who decides where each of you will live, how each of you will be educated, and what each of you will do for a living? Who has decision-making authority over money, major purchases (house, car, boat), and vacations?

And i guess i’ll do two versions of answers – one for how it is, and one for what i think i’d like.  No time to do it right now, i’ll contemplate on it and be back tomorrow.

And btw,  Love our Lurkers continues today ~ it’s a three day event this year.  So if you’re still lurking, come on out and join the party!  i don’t bite, i promise.  You know, not unless you tell me to.


8 thoughts on “Questions

  1. greengirliam

    I’m not on fet, and hadn’t seen Master Michael’s site before, so thank you for putting this thread here. I don’t know if my husband will be willing to answer these with me, he doesn’t love deep relationship discussions and prefers to save them for when they seem to be needed, not as a mental exercise or navel gazing, if that makes sense. I (obviously) like navel gazing – but – there’s an example of him making the decisions: i can follow the bouncing ball in my brain all i want, he will only indulge me and join in when he feels like it. He does acknowledge the benefit to us of my mental exercises though – so i guess it works.

    Anyhow – thank you.

    1. sofia Post author

      i think you’re right – sounds like it works to me! I hope you decide to do the questions though – i’d love to see your thoughts!


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