‘Real Housewife’ Melissa Gorga’s New Book Advocates Marital Rape according to this blog post in Jezebel. Based on the quotes from the book, that’s right. For example:
His style was to make corrections and to teach me from the beginning days of our marriage exactly how he envisioned our life together. Joe always says, “You got to teach someone to walk straight on the knife. If you slip, you’re going to get cut.” Even if something didn’t bother him that badly, he’d bring it up. He wanted to make sure that I knew, for example, if I ran out to CVS and he came home from work to an empty house, he didn’t like it. He’d call me and say, “I don’t care if you’re out all day long. But I don’t want to come home to an empty house.”
A “Joement” on equality:
To be on the same level, everyone has to get off the high horse. I don’t care if the woman makes more money than the man, if he’s a janitor and she’s the president. After a fourteen-hour workday, if a man comes home and there’s no dinner on the table, and his wife is on the phone, watching TV, or on the computer ignoring him, he won’t feel respected.
It sounds to me like Melissa Gorga is a slave and her husband is her Master. Nothing wrong with that. If you’ve consented to be in a Master/slave relationship, that’s great. It would be nice if you called it what it is, but you don’t have to.
However. If the you’re selling the idea that everyone should have an M/s relationship just like the one you have, that’s ridiculous. Dommes and male submissives and Doms who are not Neanderthals and vanilla folks and many of us living the wide variety of D/s that exists everywhere – we are all completely overlooked here.
Ms. Gorga’s husband shares this bit of “wisdom”
Men, I know you think your woman isn’t the type who wants to be taken. But trust me, she is. Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while. If your wife says “no,” turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated.
Without consent, um, that’s rape.
Women don’t realize how easy men are. Just give us what we want.
That view of men and what they need makes me sad. Many men are more than sexually demanding, emotionally immature brats.
Crap like this book also makes it more difficult for BDSM to be accepted. i hate that.