Ugh…

Thirty-seven years ~ i’ve been driving for thirty-seven years, and have been mostly responsible for taking care of my car myself.  i’ve sat through countless oil changes, hovered by the phone waiting for estimates, bemoaned a couple of blown head gaskets.  i’ve had cars overheat, get flat tires, and even had the drive shaft break once.

i am not a stranger to garages and car repairs.

So yesterday, I take my car in to get the brakes checked ~ always good to do when you hear that grinding noise, right?   i text Sir that i’m taking it in, and am not surprised that there’s no response.  He’s at work, i’m sure He’s busy.

Then i text Him when i get the estimate, which is not just a simple new-brake-pads event, but involves leaky hoses replaced and fluids flushed.  And of course He doesn’t answer.

i text Him again when i decide to walk up to the bookstore to kill time.  No response.

Again when i go to a deli to get coffee and hang out with my book.  No response.

And i start feeling pouty and sad and uncared for and some kind of insidious abandonment issues kick in.  Ugh.

There is no reason for me to feel abandoned.  i know this.

He told me from the beginning that He might not always answer when i text Him.  At the time, i thought this was some Domly principal, but no.  He doesn’t always answer because He leaves his phone places, He forgets to charge it, or He just doesn’t hear it.  i know this.

And i still feel abandoned.

i think about Monkey’s recent post “Pat, Pat, Goes the Sub-girl.”  It perfectly describes what i want from him right now.

Sigh.

Just as i finish my coffee and head back to the garage, He texts back.   By then i’m walking, and i’ve half-way closed off that part of myself that wanted Him to pat me back anyhow, so i just keep walking as my phone dings.  And dings.  i keep walking.  Pouty.

Only about the time i get back to the shop, He calls, and of course i answer.

Cell phone was in the car.  Do i need anything?  A ride?  Anything He can do?

See, He DIDN’T really abandon me!

And all is well again.

Pat, pat.

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6 thoughts on “Ugh…

  1. sirqsmlb

    Of those abandonment issues are sneaky. The creep, ever so quietly and with alarming speed until – THAT’S IT! I’M DONE! pouty and hurt and mad and sulky and desperately independent. But so frequently, it’s unnecessary and we do these self-defeating mind games to ourselves. UGH.

    I am so sorry! I can totally relate, though.

    Hugs,
    Fiona

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    1. sofia Post author

      They are sneaky, aren’t they? And irrational and unnecessary, but there they are… yeah. Nice to know we’re not alone though.

      hugs…

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  2. abby

    I am in the same boat with you and Fiona, was on that boat just today. I think i am getting better at controlling it,, and then….bang!
    hugs abby

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