When Sir and i first started dating, not really very long ago, we spent Wednesday and Saturday evenings together. Just about every week.
On Wednesdays, i’d rush home from work to get ready ~ to get the house ready, myself ready. On Saturdays, i’d usually take an afternoon nap. That way, i wouldn’t be ready for bed at 9 o’clock at night.
Back then, i was happy to know that i’d see Him twice a week. It felt stable and ~ kind of reassuring ~ to know we’d have that time together. It was time carved out of the mundane for each other.
Almost a year ago, we started living together, and of course we have much more time together. i love that ~ don’t misunderstand me. i love knowing He comes home here each night. i love waking up in the morning and knowing that He’ll be getting up soon. i love sleeping next to Him.
You know how i am. i want more. i want us to carve out some time for us. i want time for us to focus on us and not get lost in the whatever of our days.
Saturday night is the logical time. That means i need to do some things differently.
- i need to take a nap in the afternoon. That means i can’t routinely schedule stuff all day Saturday. That means instead of feeling guilty about taking a nap, i need to recognize it’s part of the plan
- i need to take the time to do whatever preparations are necessary, whether it’s the house or myself.
- i need to share this thought ~ this idea ~ with Sir and see if He’s willing to try it. We could decide ahead of time how we spend our time ~ sometimes we have plans, and that’s fun too. But whatever we do, the focus would be on each other as much as an activity.
Maybe i’m trying to be too structured? Maybe i should let it be more organic and just happen? But i don’t think it will.
What do youall do?